Friday, February 27, 2009

One of Those Days

Today is one of those days that I woke up missing Eve. It all started last night when were were texting each other. She's in San Antonio now and she was telling me how great the outlet mall was and she wished that I was there shopping with her. And I went to bed thinking the same. Woke up this morning and yes, missed her even more! Wished that I could just call her and ask her if she's free for dinner tonight. Well, dream on!

What made it even harder was the realization that I'll probably not see her this summer. Spent my last two summers with her and really had a great time. Eve brings out the spontaneous and adventurous part of me. I went quad biking with her, kayaking with her and did heaps of stuff with her. Babe told me that he wanted me to holiday with him over summer and he's thinking of Australia. Well, going to be a nice wife and listen to him. So yes, in other words, I'll miss Eve even more now.

It's truly hard to have a best friend that hardly lives in the same continent as me. How I wish that Eve just lives down the road from me, okay, not down the road. What about the same suburb? Too much to ask? Say same state? Same country? What about same continent then? Alright, I give up, same side of the world at least? Of all the above, guess, none of the above will happen in the near future. But whose to tell. But I really did cherish the times we spent together in Sydney when I did my masters and she worked there.

Guess, this is all part of life, huh?

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

An Engagement

Mel and me chilling out on the junk waiting for the others to arrive.

Babe looking cool as usual.

Kim and Mel. Check out the smile of Kim's face.

The engaged couple!

Last Saturday night, we were invited by David to attend a surprise engagement party. He was going to propose to Kim and then have a party to celebrate their engagement. Must say that his plan went perfectly executed. We boarded the junk boat at Causeway Bay, sailed to South Bay Beach (don't ask me where, it was too dark for me to figure out. Think somewhere near Repulse Bay) and picked them up. And yes, it was a fabulous time! It was incredibly romantic for David to plan it all for Kim. Felt really glad to be there for the couple.

I started thinking about Babe and me. Babe never proposed to me, rather, I asked him what's next when we hit the 9 year mark. So we planned and got married. Even my engagement ring, Babe brought me to the shop to pick it up. Did I wish for a proposal? Sure, but that's Babe's style. He's not into romance, he likes being practical. I can count the number of times on one hand that he has bought me flowers. But this is him and I've long accepted him the way he is and no, I don't expect him to change. However, I love him the way he is. I fell in love with him because he's practical, love him the way he is.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Random Things About Me

Been a little busy at work recently and life has been pretty much the same, nothing really different. Have been thinking about stuff but not going to talk about it, lest people stumble in their faith. I strongly believe that whatever happens, God has a reason and a purpose.

Anyway, this post, I'm going to cut and copy 25 random things about me and add more details to each point and add more random things about me. And after reading this post, I won't blame you if you decide to drop me as a friend or think that I'm strange and weird.

So this is it.... random things

1) I'm glad that I married to my best friend. Met Babe in church when I was 15, sparks flew from my end, and at 18, we started dating, spent quite a bit of our relationship in a long distance relationship. Dated for 10 years and finally, we got married. We're now into our 7th year of marriage. Praise the Lord!

2) I'm obsessed with pink. Seriously! Yes, very obsessed with pink. Wanted a pink car, but Babe obviously said no. Would be extremely happy if I can live in a house that's entirely pink!

3) I do not ever eat under a tree. I'm afraid that stuff will fall into my food!

4) I do not ever walk on grass barefooted. Hate bugs, creepy crawlies and worms!

5) I hate and can't deal with leaves of branches touching my face or any parts of my body. So it means, I'm not very into hiking or bushwalking. I associate leaves and branches with the above, bugs and worms.

6) I don't know how to iron clothes. I admit, that I suck it at it.

7) I don't know how to sweep the floor. Yes, again, had a maid to do household chores and have no desire to learn how to sweep the floor. I can vacuum and use magic clean though.

8) I hate doing housework. So that explains 6 and 7. Yes, completely hate it. Would rather outsource it than to do it myself.

9) I've got 3 best female friends and a best male friend and that's not the one that I married. My best friends are listed in the order that I met them. Lina (now known as Qiao Yun) is my cousin, so I guess I met her when we were babies. We grew up through but we got closer when her mum passed on and we hung out a lot during that time. She understands me as she has seen my childhood and me growing up. She loves me as I am without ever judging me or dissing me! Stanley, guess, we met in Sunday School when I was 6 or 7. Grew up together in Sunday School, he did his uni in Brisbane while I did my in Gold Coast. I believe God gave him as a best friend to keep me grounded in Him and to encourage me whenever I'm down. Am very thankful to have him as my best friend. Eve, met her at uni. We lost contact when I left Gold Coast. We reconnected again just 2 or 3 weeks before my wedding and she appeared at my wedding. Couldnt have asked for a better wedding gift! I went to do my masters in Sydney because of her and no regrets! Had the best time there. She lives in San Diego now, it's hard at times to call her or visit her but am very thankful to have her in my life. Sharon, love her. Met her when I started working in WDP. She made my days sunny when the going got really tough. Was really excited when she got married and last CNY, saw her son. If I could live in the same country with all my best friends, I'll not ask for anything else!

10) I love food, as you can tell from my size. oh yes, love food too much. Before touching down in Spore, I would already have a list of what to eat everyday and every meal too!

11) I have a slight issue with my weight. Well, relating point 10, but I am always learning to love my weight and size.

12) I'm not much a sport or nature person but I love snorkeling, that's my only sport and I really love being in the water too. And if shopping is a sport, I'll excel at it!

13) I love shopping, yes....I'm a shopaholic. I'm getting better at it. I mean, no impulsive shopping......getting better of not buying things that I don't really need.

14) I want another guinea pig and a rabbit, I used to have guinea pigs and rabbits but they died........I love pets but not cats please, have a slight phobia of them.

15) I can kill cockroaches with a smack and a whack. This is from years of living alone and needing to kill them myself.

16) Although I seem to be a really social person, I really enjoy my solitude at times. I enjoy shopping and walking around the city by myself. I treasure my alone time a lot.

17) I love to cook but don't ask me to wash up. Yes, cooking destresses me.

18) Driving relaxes me but at the same time, I have road rage. Ironic, huh?

19) I love traveling but I've a slight phobia of flying. Another irony.....I'm full of ironies, huh?

20) Hubby and me dated for 10 years before tying the knot. Look at point one. And after close to 17 years of being together, I still get butterflies in my tummy when I see him at the airport!

21) I can't deal with doing housework, therefore I outsource my cleaning. Cleaning takes too much of my time and I'm bad at it so I outsourced it.

22) I admit that I'm a really messy person, so please call before popping over.

23) I would love to have a dolphin for a pet. As a kid, I used to wish and literally dream that I had a dolphin as a pet.

24) I watch way too much television. On my off days or during my hols, you'll find me in front of the telly. I did the same thing for 2 summers in States too. Watch telly.

25) I believe that it's God's will for us to adopt a child. I believe that everyone of us has a purpose and our purpose is to adopt a child. We're still praying for that to happen.

26) I do not eat fruit that has seed that I've to spit it out. I know it strange so I don't ever eat custard apple or grapes with seed. And in Spore, my mum's maid would de-seed rambutans and lychees for me without me asking......She knows me well!

27) I have to eat with matching cutlery. This is the same with my sisters. It's just something that we're very accustomed to.

28) I love reading trash mags....

29) I almost need to read newspapers everyday, if not my day is not complete.

30) I love my current workplace more than my former workplace. But ask me this in 2 years' time, things might change.

31) I don't worry because I believe that God is in control of my life.

32) The best times in my life were probably when I was in uni, and both times, I was poor but had a great time! It was good learning experiences to lean on God's promises.

33) I admit that I may not be a very good Christian but I learning everyday to live better.

34) I have a love hate relationship with my home country.

35) I love to read and maybe too much, actually, maybe I love devouring information and therefore I love to read and surf the net.

36) I love to move, yes, seriously, moving allows me a new environment all the time, don't even know how many times have I moved in my life.

37) I've lived in Gold Coast, Perth and Sydney. Of the 3 cities, my favourite is Sydney.

38) I've always thought that someday I'll move back to Australia...and the irony, Babe may have an opportunity to do that, and I told him to tell his boss that no, we're not interested.

Okay, that's the random things that I can think of.....

So there, my 38 random notes about myself. Now, everyone knows that I'm strange and mad!

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

It's Just a Car!

Before we moved to HK, we had our little Hyundai Getz for about 3 years. I did love that car pretty much. Was a little sad to see it go. When we first got our car, Babe didn't have his driving license and so I was the driver. Being new at driving, our brand new car at that time, had endless scratches on its sports rims. I had a thing on going over curbs. Sure, Babe would yell at me. But honestly, I couldnt care less. Then car received lots of scratches from various reasons but thankfully, I didn't meet with any serious accidents. Or rather no accidents at all! Have to mention that WK was the best driving instructor without a driving license!

Then one day, months after WK started to drive. We were coming home from church and he took a corner too fast and crashed into the curb. When that happened, I was very calm, called whoever we had to call and got the car to wherever it had to go and that's it. End of the story. I didn't get mad with him or anything like that. Fixed the car and then made WK drive more, didn't want him to develop a phobia of driving.

When I was back in Spore over CNY, a very good friend, well, my best friend told me that his brand new car has a scratch and it was left by his wife. Sure, you know what's men like with their cars. And I told him, "well, your wife is fine isn't it? Isn't that more important than anything else?" Then I told him the story of Babe and the car.

The point is, a car is a car, scratches, crashes and dents can be fixed with money and insurance. Not really a big deal. But a life is priceless. The reality for me is that I'd rather the car be a write off than to have Babe come out of the accident with a scratch! My Babe is way more important than a car! But as Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, Men are like waffles and Women are like Spaghetti, men and women think differently. A car is always important for a man!

Anyway, whatever it is, I still miss my car very much. I miss driving lots. It calms me down and destresses me. I remember driving for 45 mins after work with Babe just to buy takeaway dinner. The drive was soothing but the irony, I have road rage too!

Thursday, February 05, 2009

You Need Money to Make a Living but You Need Memories to Make a Life

Have been reading a book recently and the author wrote this line when explaining why he took a trip with his family despite there were other pressing needs in his family. He wrote that money can always be made but with memories, it can't always be made.

I couldn't agree more. When I headed back for CNY, mum told me that dad wasn't that happy that I went to the States twice in a year. Sure, I know the reason, spending too much and blah, blah, blah. To a certain extent, I agree with him. But then again, I don't. Sure, he has his reasons and I have mine. I do not disagree that it is important to save money but at the same time, it was important for Babe and me to have a holiday together.

There's no doubt that I love going to America. Well, there's probably 2 reasons, the prime reason, Eve is there, secondary reason, to see my cousins. But more importantly, it's to see Eve. Eve is my best friend and I do miss her heaps. There's never once that I regret flying over to see her and spending the time with her. The time spent with her is always memorable. There's always lots of memories with her. From sand biking, to kayaking to whalewatching. She loves doing stuff with me that Babe hates. And can money ever buy these memories? Yes and no, yes, I would neeed to spend that amount of money to fly and see her. And no, if she leaves this world, no amount of money will ever buy back the memories that we can create together.

The trip to States over Christmas was really good for Babe and me. It has been a long time since we took a long vacation together. There's something about a vacation that a couple tend to be more in love, more in tune and more of everything. Eversince we moved to Hong Kong, almost all our vacations have been spent on returning back to Spore. Don't get me wrong, we like Spore but sometimes it can be too much.

So there you go....I'm not very good at keeping my money because I'm more interested in collecting and keeping memories. I love looking back and remembering the wonderful times spent with family and friends.


Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Singapore - 23rd Jan to 2 Feb

I have a love-hate thingy about heading back to Spore for CNY. I love CNY because I get to see most of my family and cousins. I come from a large family, or rather, dad comes from a large family and it's nice to see my uncles and aunties and cousins and just catch up with them. I got to meet up with Eelynn and Bruno, they flew in from San Francisco and my other cousins, Alwin and Aloysious. Think I probably haven't seen Alwin for like 5 or 6 years? And then, there's endless dinners that I've got to be there. I know, its strange coming from me that I do get tired from entertaining and eating. Ate so much to the point that Babe looked and went, gee, your cheeks have puffed up! And it doesn't help that Babe ate like 3 dinners a night and I was always tempted to eat! Food is just glorious in Spore.

It was also really nice heading back to Spore to catch up with cousins and friends that have kids. Its always nice to see their kids growing up hale and healthy.




This Renee, Babe's cousin, Kum Yew's daughter. She's probably about 3 months old. Really beautiful and adorable. It's hard that we missed out on her one month's party as we were in HK. Sometimes it can be hard missing out on family affairs.



This is Damien, my cousin's son. Apparently, he gets along with me. Played and carried him the whole afternoon and he didn't cry or whimper. But the day before, he cried and screamed and yelled whenever someone other than his mum carried him.

My latest friend, Gabriel. His mum is Sharon, one of my best friends in Spore. He popped in Dec so I guess he's about 5 weeks or so. He was one of the highlights of my trip back. Saw him once and had to sneak back to see him again. Just adorable!


We missed out on Pastor Heng's birthday party as we had to have dinner with Babe's family. Pastor Heng is almost like a dad to me. Well, to a certain extend, he's my spiritual father. I wouldn't have anyone else officiate my wedding!

This is Ashmund, Veron's latest addition. Very cute. I had my first experience feeding cereal to a 4 month old.

Ashwin, the kid that I told his mum, Veron, I don't mind bringing home. Very adorable. Babe had a hand in feeding him lunch, not sure if he enjoyed it. Have to say that Ashwin won my heart because he was busy keeping his toys before dragging the others out.

Me plotting and figuring out how to kidnap Ashwin home!

Overall, it was a really great trip. Got to spend time with the people that I truly missed and yes, there were others that I didn't have time to catch up with. Very glad to have caught up with Stan. It had been close to a year since I last saw him. When he got married, I was a little worried that our friendship might change since he's now a married man. But am very thankful that Dorcas, his wife understands the friendship that we have. He's my brother that constantly reminds me to seek God's will first.

It was also heartwarming visiting Sharon and seeing her with little Gabriel. She's going through life changing experience and she's taking it in her stride. I got to see Kenneth, her husband, feeding little Gabriel and am glad that he's such a hands on dad. I really wish that I had more time to spend with them. But....I'll be back!!!!

When I reached the airport this afternoon, my heart sank a little. Well, I do miss HK and wanted to get home, yes, home is here in HK now, but at the same time, I know that I'll missed out on Joanne giving birth to a little baby girl, miss out on seeing little Gabriel grow. And some of my other close friends' kids too. Will probably miss out my future niece calling out Aunty, missing out little Gabriel walking and talking. I guess this is what life basically is all about. You win some and lose some. But am thankful that I can head home to Singapore every couple of months to spend time with my family and friends. And there's always emails.....